True story, I actually love myself the good, bad, and the ugly. However, it took me a loooooonnnngggg time to get to know who I am, what I stand for, and how to really understand the truth about self love (and I still have a long way to go). What I have learned so far is interesting….. the fact that no matter how much you try, beg, cry, etc… you can not make anyone love and appreciate you, the way that you feel you should be loved and appreciated. Another thing that is questionable is random people will have absolutely no reason not to like you and hate your guts for no reason (I find that funny as well).
My value is not found in what others want to know or already know about me, my value is accepting things, people, and situations that may have not been my best decisions and not dwelling on those mistakes. Staying in the past is a black hole, time is soooooooo precious. I’ve always been labeled as “different” and it used to bother me and that I will not lie about, but when I finally focused and realized that my “differences” gave me a major advantage on the ones that were all the same, that is when I started to win. Even the men that I was or had dated helped me to understand that you have to be a strong-minded, strong-willed, man of God, (not a preacher), and not afraid to go the distant with me and in return I will do the same. I learned that I didn’t want a man that I could run all over……. What would be the point?
My body is something that I learned to embrace as well…. and that was only because the media will make you think you have to look a certain way to make it in this world. The lies they tell and continue to tell, because I wear all my scars, wrinkles, and stretch marks proudly. Women, all of us are beautiful, I’m not saying if you feel like going under the knife don’t do it, I’m saying if you are doing it or going to do it let it be for you and not for the world.
My heart and my mind are the most appreciated things within me….. even though they are constantly at work. I had to learn that my heart goes of impulse and my mind goes off logic. Rarely do they get along, but when I learned to step back and analyze a situation I knew which one I would rely on to make the right decision. I’m really that simple. This post isn’t just about me it’s about all of us. I’m learning something knew about myself everyday, but I make sure that I’m paying attention. I don’t care how much of a people person you are (I’m one), if you don’t acknowledge and love yourself, you’re just an empty cup trying to fill another cup……. and that is dangerous! Love God, Love Yourself, and Love People.